The Magic of Peter Pan

- on loss, acceptance and transformation.

- on loss, acceptance and transformation.

For those who do not know, as I didn't, J.M. Barrie wrote Peter Pan as an expression of his grief over the death of his one true love, Sylvia Davies. She was a young widow with 4 young sons.  She was already sick when they met, and she died fairly quickly. The speed of her death was a shock.

Neverland was Sylvia’s imagined place – and it was her way of offering reassurance – it was the coping tool she gifted to her loved ones, to help them accept loss. Barrie needed to flush out her vision of Neverland in order to process his own grief, as well as their children’s grief, and as a result, he just happened to create an enduring vision of one of the most beautiful and magical imaginary worlds to be found anywhere. Ever.

A couple of weeks ago I was questioning how we could possibly express the beauty to be found in emotional pain. The connection seemed a mystery to me then. But today I can see that I have indeed felt this expression, and I’ve held it close since I was a young child – 

The connection between beauty and our deepest sorrows lies in our willingness to transform them.  In order to bridge the gap between the two, we need to allow our pain to become a starting point instead of an end point.  

We begin with a leap in faith, and then reach outward and upward with a spiraling willingness to experience the magic of our own imaginations.  And if we’re brave enough, and honest enough, and just a little bit lucky, Peter Pan and Tinker Bell will be waiting to serve as our guides.


“Finding Neverland” starring Johnny Depp and Kate Winslett